Tayyaba Jabeen
Today’s Reddit AITA story is very loaded as the relationship between a mother and her young teen daughter hangs in the balance. OP, who is the mother in this situation came to request advice from the online community about whether or not she should disclose the reason her ex-husband preferred the other children to her youngest daughter. The background story is a little complicated and difficult for OP. She and her ex-husband initially planned to have three children close together, but after giving birth to their second child, she conceived again very quickly. Her former husband suspected that OP was cheating based on the appearance difference between the youngest child and their older one. See the whole story down below:
Source: u/Particular_Honey_675
#1) Would OP be the AH for disclosing this?
#2) OP’s ex, who she has 3 kids with, accused her of infidelity. They wanted 3 kids back to back, but the first two were hard to conceive. When the third one was easy, OP’s ex got suspicious.
#3) OP got accused multiple times even though the daughter ended up being her then-husband’s, so she filed for divorce.
#4) When Julie, the youngest, was 2, OP and her ex divorced. OP’s ex has always been cold to Julie but has now begun taking an interest after she showed good skills in sports.
#5) OP’s daughter picked up on this and asked OP why her dad begun liking her now.
#6) OP’s daughter asked these questions teary-eyed. OP had lied about the reason behind divorce previously.
#7) Half of the people OP knows think she should tell Julie, while the other half don’t recommend it.
#8) OP gives us some updates, explaining how she found Julie having a breakdown about this situation.
#9) OP is looking into a therapist for the family and will be speaking with her ex soon.
Source: u/Particular_Honey_675
The choice to seek the guidance and wisdom of a child therapist seems like a really good idea according to most Redditors. Doing right by her daughter should be the priority here and it seems like for OP, it is. Julie must have endured a very traumatic childhood full of wondering about her father’s apparent preference for her siblings. OP’s former husband exhibited a horrible behavior towards their child by mistreating her as the result of his unfounded suspicion and accusations. He also needs therapy for the issues he’s projecting on Julie. Here’s what Redditors are saying about it:
#10) Being honest and careful might help.
Via MousingJoke
#11) A child therapist would be able to give in depth insight into the situation.
#12) Julie is still a child so OP needs to be careful with her words.
Via Mera1506
#13) She will be upset, but relaying the whole thing gently might be good in the long run.
Via NeekaNou
#14) I hope Julie realizes the same thing.
Via heathelee73
#15) She doesn’t need to know the messy things yet.
#16) It would do wonders.
Via mommawolf2
#17) Exactly! Reddit might be the wrong place.
#18) Yup, exactly what I said.
Via Okay-Party5118
#19) It’s a difficult situation overall.
#20) Every situation is different but the best advice everyone came up with was to refer to an actual therapist.
What did you guys think of this one? Drop a comment down below and let us know your opinion! Share this article with your friends and lastly, remember to stay tuned to Defused for more.
GIPHY App Key not set. Please check settings