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In this scenario, a family is facing a significant conflict over living arrangements. The central issue is the OP’s reluctance to give up their living space on their parents’ rural property to their sister and her family, who recently moved to the same town. The parents initially invited OP to stay in the property rent-free, and OP invested time and money into renovating it. Additionally, they offered shelter to Olha, a Ukrainian refugee with a child.
The conflict arises when the sister’s family abruptly relocates to the town, moving in with the parents. The parents suggest that OP should vacate their living space, arguing that it’s too large for one person and that it would be better for their niece to live in a beautiful natural setting.
OP resists this suggestion, asserting her right to the living space that their parents initially offered as a long-term home. They also mention their commitment to helping Olha, which the parents and extended family find objectionable. The conflict escalates, with daily calls and messages from family members trying to persuade OP to accommodate their sister’s family.
Now OP wants to know whether she’s an A-hole or not for not moving out of the property. So keep scrolling down below and read the whole story narrated by OP and make sure to read it till the end.
1. OP’s sister was the first among their four siblings to have a kid moreover, OP said that her niece is severely spoiled by her sister. OP’s parents have extended family and she also told me that her parents go to great lengths to accommodate my sister’s requests.
2. OP had a lot going on in her life lately, her boyfriend passed away. Moreover, she also lost her job so she decided to move back to her hometown.
3. OP’s parents own a rural property they used to rent out the property had been empty for a while so OP’s parents invited her to stay there rent-free as long as she needed to.
4. OP invested a lot of time and money fixing the house up, she also made a friend named Olha, who was a Ukrainian refugee with a young daughter. Olha was struggling so OP invited her to stay with her for a couple of months until she got back on her feet.
5. OP’s parents had no issue with her staying at the house until a recent drama, OP’s brother-in-law had been working for a shady company that was shut down and the owner left the country. Due to this OP’s sister’s family moved in with her parents.
6. Very soon OP’s parents and sister approached her to swap which means OP had to move with her parents, and OP’s sister and her family had to take OP’s place claiming that the house was too big for one person.
7. OP was confused as her brother-in-law is still financially stable and could get a place to live
8. When OP reminded her parents about Olha, her parents were pissed and they thought helping someone else and their child is not okay while her sister and niece needs the help
9. In the end OP’s parents said you are living on our property so you will do as we want, and OP said if we want to talk in property terms and not family terms then you should evict me.
10. OP’s parents are not evicting her but they call and text her every day and they do guilt trip OP they even called OP an A-hole for not giving up the more comfortable place to her sister
11. Now OP wants to know whether she’s an A-hole or not, let’s see what users had to say.
12. And they really should compensate OP for fixing it up
13. Actually what this user said is true and makes sense, the fact they can afford to live in any other place but they still decide to invade OP’s space.
14. Piece of advice for OP
15. This user suggested OP stop taking calls and if the parents evict her OP can sue them for the money she spent fixing up the property, what do you think about this plan?
16. Exactly, if we look deeply we will notice that OP has been in a more difficult situation than her sister. Her loved one passed away she lost a job. She’s more entitled to the property, to be honest.
17. Literally no one said OP is an A-hole
18. NTA
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