In this situation, the original poster (OP) is the father of a 25-year-old woman diagnosed with Antisocial Personality Disorder (ASPD). The daughter displayed troubling behavior from a young age, leading to therapy and support to manage her actions. Despite successful efforts to control her aggression, the daughter openly admits to her father that she does not feel love or empathy towards anyone, including her family.
The daughter is currently in a year-and-a-half-long relationship with a boyfriend who is unaware of her diagnosis. The father, concerned about the lack of genuine emotional connection from his daughter, insists that she should disclose her ASPD diagnosis to her boyfriend before they consider marriage. The daughter adamantly refuses, fearing it might jeopardize the relationship, and asserts that her father wouldn’t dare reveal the truth.
The father, torn between his loyalty to his daughter and his respect for her boyfriend, grapples with the moral dilemma of whether to disclose the information himself if the daughter doesn’t. He believes the boyfriend has the right to know all the facts before making a long-term commitment and worries about the potential consequences of keeping such a significant aspect of the daughter’s mental health hidden.
So keep on scrolling down below to read the whole story narrated by OP and make sure to read it till the end for better understanding.
1. OP loves her daughter very much who is 25 years old and he spends a good time with her but there’s one thing that would give people pause which is that OP’s daughter is a diagnosed sociopath
2. OP told the users that she exhibited odd, disturbing behaviors which can be seen in a lot of sociopaths. She had trouble in elementary years where she used to struggle because of lying, cheating, and cruelty. But with support and therapy, she minimized her bad behavior.
3. After getting her behavior tammed she has become a law-abiding person and she even has a decent job, good education, and a lot of friendships and admirers.
4. OP said she now has a boyfriend and he’s crazy about her, OP said they all have a very strong relationship and they live in the same area.
5. But OP says he doubts her about loving her and they have had open discussions since her diagnosis, and she told OP that she doesn’t feel love or empathy towards anyone, even family.
6. OP said she also stated that she has never been guilty about anything she has done and she doesn’t even know what guilty feels like
7. Her boyfriend doesn’t have any idea about her diagnosis and she has been very clear with OP that she has no plans to tell him because it’ll scare him away, but OP said that she needs to tell him the truth before marrying him or he will to which she responded “you wouldn’t dare”
8. Now OP wants to know whether he’s an A-hole or not
9. This user says OP is NTA and it’s an awful situation to be in
10. This justification is for real and I go along with this user, what do you think?
11. It’s for the greater good!
12. Your thoughts on this?
13. NTA
14. The boyfriend at least deserves to know this!
15. He has a right to know
16. Almost everyone said that the boyfriend needs to know this before marrying her and I assume everyone is right!
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