Single Mom Refuses To Let Her Cousin And Her Three Kids Move In With Her, Asks For Advice

Our OP from today’s Reddit AITA post had been searching for her cousin Mae for multiple years continuously after the young woman abruptly disappeared and broke contact with her and their family. OP and Mae had shared a close childhood, but during their teenage years, they became distant. However, their connection remained intact throughout college until Mae randomly dropped out and and disappeared. After a very long drawn out period of silence spanning over 7 years, Mae finally made contact with her relatives. She showed up at OP’s doorstep and asked her to take in Mae and her three children. Here’s how it went:

Source: u/MaesCousin

#1) Is OP in the wrong here? Let’s find out.

#2) OP and her cousin Mae were close as kids, grew apart, and suddenly she disappeared.

#3) Mae told everyone she wasn’t missing, she just wanted to start over. OP had no idea about this since Mae had not reached out to her, which hurt.

#4) OP tried to reaching out to Mae but accepted her as lost until she showed up on OP’s doorsteps with three kids after the father passed away.

#5) Mae was doing fine until her son got diagnosed with a disability and she decided to seek help. She didn’t wanna move in with her parents.

#6) Mae asked to move in with OP but OP stood her ground and told her how hurt she has been with Mae’s actions.

#7) OP gave good reasons for this, and Mae moved in with her parents. Mae texted OP saying she wishes OP had let her stay with her instead.

#8) Mae also cited their years of friendship, making OP question whether she was the AH.

Source: u/MaesCousin

OP’s refusal to help Mae is directly related to her cousin’s past behavior. Mae should recognize the delayed consequences of her actions and how they have influenced her family’s trust. OP’s perspective on prioritizing the wellbeing of her own child is in no way unfair or unkind. Mae should appreciate that, as a mother, this decision was made to protect her child’s best interests. Here’s what Redditors are saying about the situation:

#9) That is such a scary concept to think about.

#10) It would be a very unnecessary complication in OP’s life, it’s best to stay away from the situation.

#11) That’s something that should be looked into.

#12) OP needs to trust her gut feeling and go with whatever her intution suggests.

#13) Mae is a stranger now.

#14) That’s true, OP can offer support in other ways.

#15) Mae needs to understand that she might not be welcome after all that she did.

#16) What happened to Mae is not even remotely OP’s fault or responsibility.

#17) They should definitely get to know each other again but that can’t be done without her living with OP.

#18) Trying to guilt-trip OP is one of the worst things Mae could’ve done after coming back.

#19) OP was all set up to be used by Mae, thankfully she didn’t let her stay.

#20) If anything, it’s a little suspicious.

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