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Family dynamics can shape our choices and influence our happiness.
Family dynamics can be complex, often challenging us in unexpected ways. Issues arise when parents favor one child more than others. Today’s story sheds light on how favoritism can ruin beautiful relations. The story revolves around OP, a soon-to-be-wed individual who found themselves caught in the midst of a family conflict.
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As their wedding approached, OP’s sister made an unexpected request to take over their dream venue, leading to a heated debate within the family. OP’s unwavering desire to have their dream wedding clashed with the expectations placed upon them, leaving them torn between family loyalty and personal happiness. Scroll down to read what happened next.
The headline:
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OP and her fiancé have been together for 8 years and while OP was busy with her PhD program, her fiancé took charge of wedding planning. Due to their dream venue being booked until after OP’s graduation, they made a brilliant decision to secure the venue 3 years in advance.
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OP’s sister announced her pregnancy at a family BBQ, and when their Nan asked about the wedding plans, the sister revealed her intention to move the wedding to September to accommodate the baby. The sister asked if they could take OP’s venue:
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OP was put on the spot when her sister asked to take her venue, and although her BIL spoke up, stating it was not okay to pressure OP, the sister dismissed it by claiming OP wanted what’s best for her. When OP expressed her attachment to the venue, the sister became upset and stormed off.
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OP faced backlash from her mother, who questioned why she couldn’t wait a few more months. The situation escalated, and OP and her fiancé decided to leave. The sister later called, crying and expressing her belief that OP always gets what she wants. OP and their fiancé feel angry towards the family, and tensions rise as their family threatens not to attend the wedding.
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OP’s BIL reached out to apologize, informing them that he had discussed the situation with the sister and she had agreed not to ask for the venue. OP’s father continued to send guilt-inducing texts about the sister’s constant crying. OP and their fiancé decided to remove the sister from the bridal party and replace her with a supportive aunt.
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OP’s future father-in-law defended OP against her mother’s unreasonable expectations and firmly expressed that playing favorites would result in losing OP. This led to her mother crying and criticizing the father-in-law. OP’s in-laws offered support and reassurance and promising to be there for OP no matter what:
OP’s post unexpectedly gained significant attention and support, even reaching mainstream media. However, her sister came across the story on Reddit and reacted strongly, accusing OP of portraying her negatively and distorting the facts.
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OP’s sister claimed that OP was being unfair and stating that family should take precedence over the opinions of internet strangers. OP sent a brief text expressing her apologies for her sister’s perception, maintaining that she did not distort the events and refrained from describing her tone or exaggerating. 
The text OP sent to her sister:
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OP’s sister blocked her, then unblocked her to share a message about the wedding venue. The wedding planner confirmed that they received a message from OP’s mother and would proceed with rebooking the venue. The sister confirmed her availability for a meeting at the wedding planner’s office.
OP’s older brother reached out to her to ask about the situation. Their mother had falsely claimed that OP had willingly offered the venue to their sister prior to the BBQ. OP clarified the true events to their brother, who readily believed them. The brother revealed that his decision to move away was partly influenced by their parents’ mistreatment.
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OP and her fiancé took proactive steps to secure their wedding arrangements by setting passwords with most of their vendors and the venue directly. They made the decision to cancel the catering that was initially paid for by OP’s parents. The canceled bachelor parties were replaced with a family and friends cooking session. OP’s brother will accompany her down the aisle, and their aunt.
OP and her fiancé contacted their wedding planner who confirmed that they had not been in communication with OP’s mother since the initial booking of the venue. The planner reassured OP that no changes could be made without their presence.
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“Should FAMILY be doing this?”
Spoiler Alert:
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“Not necessarily.”
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