Husband Asks If He Was Wrong For Asking His Wife To Stop ‘Acting Out’ In Front Of His Mother

Partners must support one another.

You’d think that everyone would realise this, but it appears that it’s not as common as you might think. Now, I am all for trying to keep the peace and not taking sides, but it is sometimes necessary to stand beside and support your significant other, even when it comes to your family. I will be the first to admit that standing up to your family can be extremely difficult, but when they are in the wrong and causing harm to your partner, it is your responsibility to assist them. However, some people simply turn a blind eye to these issues or tell their partner to keep quiet and take it all. After all, their parents deserve everything, right?

As you will see shortly, the poster of this story and his wife recently had a baby. As you can imagine, it’s a very exhausting time for both of them, so OP decided to ask his mother for assistance. This is quite common, as the in-laws will often come in to help, especially if it is the first baby because they have clearly been through it before. However, boundaries must be established so that they do not believe it is their own child. However, OP clearly fails at this, and instead of siding with his wife, he is the one telling her to stop ‘acting out’ in front of his mother. He clearly cares about his mother, which is admirable, but he should recognise that his mother is the one who is at fault here.

You can see what I’m talking about if you scroll down.

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We need to read on to see how he is ‘acting out’.

But first, we need to understand that they just had a baby.

And while his mother is helping, his wife is not on board.

This has led to quite a few tiffs between them.

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But OP always tells her to stop acting out rather than support her.

So it is not surprising to see that his wife is now angry at him as well.

He understands that his mother is in the wrong.

But he doesn’t want to say anything about it.

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I would be irritated by his behaviour if I were in his wife’s shoes. I understand wanting to keep the peace, but that doesn’t give him the authority to let his mother do whatever she wants. His mother does not appear to be ‘helping’ from what I can tell. It appears that she is spending time with the baby. I’ve never understood why people believe that helping with baby care means having the baby all to yourself.

Wouldn’t it be more helpful if you did the housework so the new mother could spend time relaxing with her baby? And basically, holding the baby hostage so he can’t be fed on time isn’t going to help. I can only hope that he realises his error and apologises to his wife.

People in the comments were not on his side either.

Most people were adamant that his mother wasn’t helping at all.

I wouldn’t go as far with the information we have though.

It just sounds like they need to have a clear conversation about some boundaries.

And he needs to stand up to his mother as well.

This person may be blunt but they aren’t wrong either.

It is not as if his wife is upset over nothing.

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What would you do in his situation? Do you believe he was correct in keeping the peace? Or do you believe he should have supported his wife? Have you ever been in a situation like this before? Comment below about your experiences, and don’t forget to share this story with your friends so they can offer their own suggestions as well.