Daughter Wants To Move Out And Tells Mom That It’s Not Her Job To Raise Her Siblings

Kids should be kids, and teens should enjoy being teens. However, some parents expect their children to act like adults, a situation known as parentification. Parentification occurs when parents rely on their kids to handle more responsibilities at home.

Imagine young ones being forced to play the role of “mini parents” for their siblings. Experts say this can have a negative impact on a child’s growth.

While it’s okay to teach children responsibility to prepare them for the real world, excessive duties can drain their youthful energy. Parents should give their children the time they need to grow, mature, and learn.

Today, we’ll explore the story of a 20-year-old woman whose mom constantly pushes her to take care of her four younger siblings.

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1. We love a nice family drama.

2. OP is eldest of the five siblings; two boys and three girls including her.

3. Because she is the eldest, OP ends up doing a lot of childrearing for her siblings, even more than her mother at times.

4. OP takes a full part in house chores as well…or should I say is made to take part in the house chores.

5. OP is planning to move into a small flat with her friend but is worried because the mom doesn’t do anything, that her siblings’ quality of life will drop in her absence.

6. The mom didn’t want OP to leave saying she “needed” her.

The mom knows if OP leaves, all the responsibilities will automatically land on her shoulder and she is not ready for it. Actually, all the responsibilities currently on OP’s shoulders are tasks that the mother should be doing in the first place. The fact that she needs OP to look after her children shows she is a failed mother. OP should go ahead with her plan but her worries cannot be ignored. She knows if she leaves, her siblings could potentially suffer because the mother will not be taking care of them the way she does.

Let’s see what happens next. Scroll down below to continue reading!

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7. OP got angry and told her mother it was her who should be looking after her kids.

8. The mother told OP’s siblings about her plan but framed it in a way so OP sounded like an evil woman.

9. OP asked the AITA community if putting her desires at the front made her an AH or not.

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Here are some of the comments shared on the story:

10. Getting out is the only way you stop getting used as a nanny, OP. There is no other way.

Via RedditDK2

11. The fact that the dad was never in the picture should have made the mom so much more responsible…that being said in an ideal situation.

Via RealTexasJake, Few_Blood1369

12. Her kids, her problem.

Via Knitsanity

13. Let the kids grow a little, they will follow OP’s path and move out as well. The mother is no mom at all. She should be left to live alone.

Via carolinediva

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