Every kid deserves the best childhood their parents can possibly provide with. It is not about the fancy gifts that you give to your children or the upper-class lifestyle that you provide them with, it is about the happiness, the memories, and the joyous moments that the parents and the child can cherish forever. It is about the child’s parents being with it through its upbringing process so the bond between them all keeps getting stronger and stronger.
Unfortunately, sometimes because the bond is not strong between the parents or if it entirely breaks for whatever reason, the childhood of the child suffers and it may develop some feelings about it that often don’t go away even when they grow up.
In today’s story, Reddit user u/SODKOD shared her father and mother broke up and she ended up spending her childhood with her mom…without a father. Although OP loved her dad. When OP got into university, her mom and dad got back together. She was really happy that her family was finally complete. But when her parents got married, they had two kids. When OP would see the way her two siblings were being brought up, she would feel terrible thinking abut her own childhood. So she decided to distance herself from her siblings for everyone’s greater good.
So much so that when OP’s mom called her to plan a vacation where the whole family would go, OP told her she wouldn’t go on a vacation or anywhere where those kids would come too.
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1. Let’s find out.
2. OP has been raised by her. Her mom and dad broke up but she still loves her father, they are just not that close.
3. When OP was in her second year of university, her mom and dad started dating again.
4. OP was extremely happy about her parents getting together.
5. But when the two got married and had two kids, seeing her parents with their babies made OP realize how much she had lost.
6. Because OP didn’t get the childhood her new siblings were getting, it made OP want to distance herself from the kids.
7. Since the decision to stay away, OP hasn’t visited her parents for over a day in four years.
8. When it was time for OP to get married, her mother contacted her to plan a family vacation where all of them, including her siblings, would go.
9. OP simply told her mother she would not go anywhere where the siblings would go as well.
OP is in a bit of a mental situation here. When OP’s mom birthed her, her parents soon broke up. She didn’t get to spend her childhood with both parents. She probably witnessed her mother making a constant effort to help the baby grow as a single mom.
But when her father and mother got back together and had children, OP saw those children getting the childhood she desired. And that is what made OP feel sort of an inferiority complex from her own siblings. I would declare OP NTA because it is her life after all and if she decides she doesn’t want to go on a vacation with her younger siblings, then her decision should be respected. However, it would be ideal if OP sat down with her parents and had a detailed discussion with them about her feelings. Maybe, after a long, tough debate, the outcome of it may result in OP developing positivity towards her siblings.
Let’s see what happens next. Scroll down below to continue reading!
10. OP’s decision made her mother cry.
11. OP did feel terrible about the fact that she made her mother cry but she was strong on the fact that the vacation with the siblings included would have made her feel miserable.
Here are some of the comments shared on the story:
12. Just because she lives with you doesn’t mean you can enforce your decisions on her.
13. This situation is filled with complexities. Both OP and her mother have the right to feel the feelings they felt in this story.
14. True that.
15. That is what I said…OP should try to talk to her parents about her feelings. Keeping the feelings in can be dangerous.
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