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In this story, a young adult who has grown up in a divorced family faces the challenge of managing their parents’ presence at their college graduation. Throughout their life, they have felt the pressure of trying to please both parents and avoid upsetting them with their choices. The opportunity to bring both sets of parents to the post-graduation lunch seems like a great idea to facilitate a harmonious gathering. However, a significant issue arises when the mother arrives and asks about the father’s presence, which leads to her leaving abruptly without an explanation.
OP’s intention was not to upset anyone but rather to create a memorable moment by having both parents together for photos and celebrations. However, miscommunications and lingering tensions between the parents result in an unexpected and emotionally charged outcome, leaving the young adult torn between their parents’ feelings and their desire for a positive and inclusive experience.
1. OP’s parents have been divorced as early as she could remember, and OP has been primarily living with her mom.
2. OP told users that she kinda knew that she was going to piss off one parent or the other based on how she spent her time
3. OP’s college time was exciting moreover, she told that her mother paid for all of her schooling and her father contribution was child support and the occasional band trip.
4. OP told that her mother publicly changed her tone around her when the topic of her father involvement in her life came
5. As four years goes by OP got four graduation tickets and she was struggling deciding who to invite
6. OP invited both of her parents
7. But when OP’s mom saw her ex-husband along with his wife she said to OP that she’s going to use the bathroom, but unfortunately she never came back.
8. Now OP wants to know whether she’s an A-hole for setting this situation up
9. This is a point well made, and as well as by her side OP did her best!
10. OP’s mother kinda reacted like a kid here to be honest
11. NTA
12. Mother should have handled this situation far better!
13. Atleast they could have been civil for one day for OP as it was her special day
14. OP is not an A-hole for setting up this situation, all she wanted was them to be there for here.
15. I totally agree with this user!
16. Mom clearly prioritized her feelings on OP’s graduation day, she could have resisted her feelings and just have been there for her.
17. This user suggested OP that it wasn’t her problem it was her parents problem and if they can’t be civial for a few hours then it’s a shame
From the users replies above it shows that OP isn’t the A-hole we are looking for. All she wanted was her parents to be there for her at her graduation but it turned out to be a bad day for her.
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