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In this story, a 17-year-old boy was a talented piano player from a young age. His parents bought him a piano and signed him up for lessons when he was 8, and he became known as the “piano guy” at school. As he grew older, OP began considering quitting piano lessons to explore other interests and balance his extracurricular activities. OP’s dad, who often enjoys finding loopholes and considers life unfair, proposed a deal when OP was 15. He said If he reached level 10 RCM in piano and maintained good grades, he would buy OP a new car of his choice.
OP agreed to the deal and worked hard to keep up with piano lessons and maintain his academic performance. OP passed his level 9 RCM exams and informed his dad that he had chosen a BMW X5 plug-in hybrid SUV. However, on his birthday, OP’s dad surprised him with a toy model of the BMW X5 instead of an actual car, citing that he fulfilled his end of the deal by providing a BMW, just not the full-sized one you had in mind. OP’s dad brushed off OP’s disappointment with the reasoning that life isn’t fair.
Feeling betrayed and hurt by his dad’s actions, OP distanced himself from him and viewed his behavior as a breach of trust. Now he wants to know if he’s an A-hole for refusing to forgive his dad. Keep on scrolling down below to know more about this and we are looking forward to your decision that whether OP is an A-hole or not.
1. When OP was 8 his parents brought him a piano and signed him up for lessons, after some time OP was known as the piano guy at school because he was actually good at it. He played at school concerts and on various occasions.
2. When OP turned 15 he talked about quitting lessons to his parents and they tried to guilt him out of it, OP wanted to try other extracurriculars but studying and piano lessons consumed most of his time. So his dad proposed a deal that if he kept playing and taking lessons until he reached level 10 RCM he would buy him a car of his choice. They both shook hands on the deal.
3. OP briefed users about his family and told them they are financially well off and OP had a very privileged life, but if he ever wanted a luxury item such as a console or a new phone he would buy it with the money he has saved from after school jobs.
4. Whenever OP complains about his dad not playing fair his father’s answer is always the same which is “Life isn’t fair”
5. OP kept up with his lessons while making sure his grades are up, and he also passed level 9 RCM exams. Now he was just waiting for his deal to be fulfilled. He told his dad that he had chosen BMW X5.
6. On OP’s birthday his dad told him there was a surprise waiting for him in the garage, but as soon as he rushed to the garage there was a toy BMW X5 instead of a real car, and when he asked about it he said you shouldn’t have expected to get a real brand new car as you are only 17 years old. This broke OP’s heart badly
7. When OP said he wasn’t being fair his response as always was “Life isn’t fair”
8. Now OP wants to know if he’s an A-hole for keeping his distance with his dad
9. NTA
10. He should have acknowledged it and he should have respected his son’s feelings
11. Exactly, this is true.
12. Dad is the A-hole here not OP
13. Now am sure OP is never gonna consider entering any other deal with his father as he has just wrecked his trust in him
14. Here some user thinks that OP shouldn’t even allow his future children to be around him unmonitored
15. But you are dad and you should have been fair to your son at least
16. Indeed, it is the worst way to teach a lesson
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