Let’s delve into the story of one Redditor, a working woman navigating life’s complexities amidst marriage and family challenges. OP’s MIL, aged 62, had opted not to work and sometimes found herself without a home. To support her, OP’s husband had provided a house and a car, all under his name to prevent their sale for cash. Despite facing the financial strain of infertility treatments, he also provided regular financial assistance to his mother.
Adding to the complexity, OP and her husband maintain separate finances, with OP having more savings despite her husband’s higher income and age. This raised questions about trust and how their family dynamics influenced financial decisions.
Further complicating matters, OP’s in-laws divorced long ago, citing the MIL’s mental health issues, which added another layer of stress to the situation. In this intricate web of relationships and financial responsibilities, OP wanted guidance to navigate through these challenges. That is why the matter was shared on the subreddit “entitled parents“.
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1. That kind of MILs are very toxic.
2. OP’s MIL is a useless woman who doesn’t want to work for anything and has been homeless multiple times in the past.
And the fact that she has preferred homelessness over working is just out of this world!
3. OP’s husband has been supporting his MIL a lot. He even got her a small house.
4. He also bought her a car which along with the house are in his name just so she doesn’t sell the assets and runs away with the money.
5. It also annoys OP that her husband gives her MIL money even though the couple is going through an expensive infertility treatment.
6. The husband makes a lot more money than OP does but still, she has more money in savings than him. This is worrying to her as he may soon start taking her money to support his mom.
7. In an update OP addressed the FIL’s situation. He had left the mad woman because he thought she was crazy. OP’s stance exactly!
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OP was confused and asked the internet for advice. The internet did not hold back. Here are some of the comments shared on the story:
8. If things keep moving forward like this, it will only worsen and get more expensive.
9. Abort this ship while you still can, OP.
10. I really hope the house they are living in isn’t in MIL’s name.
Via Excellent_Ad1132
This has “red flag” written all over it. The first thing OP needs to do here is stop with the infertility treatment. Not because it is so expensive, but because it will never be worth it with this guy she is currently married to. He is her mother’s husband and it shows from the way he is giving her everything he owns. He makes double compared to what OP makes and has less money in savings. Not only is that unfair to himself but unfair to OP. He needs to have enough money to support his wife and then help his mother out.
I don’t think OP should remain a part of this situation anymore. She should get a divorce from this guy and pursue her dream of having a child with another, more suitable guy.
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11. OP better keep her money separate from her husband’s because he may try to give her that too.
12. And my advice would be to leave the husband entirely. Take divorce.
Via Redditor
13. Law-wise, OP and her husband could both get into deep trouble.
Via mtngrl60
14. The fact that the internet is reminding OP again and again to keep her finances separate means there is some weight to this advice.
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15. OP does not need to rethink her decision to have a child but she does need to rethink her decision of having a child with this guy.
Via Allayrin
16. Make it a this or that situation and get out of it as soon as you can.
17. I am willing to bet she has an entire plan thought out. Be careful, OP.
18. Maybe have someone analyze where is her money going!
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19. And if he doesn’t cut her off, OP’s next move to cut her husband off should be very clear to her.
20. After reading through all the advice OP received, in an update she thanked everyone and announced she was no longer continuing the infertility treatment. She took the advice!
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